Companionship

This post marks the half-way stage of NaBloPoMo. So far I have written 6603 words (excluding these), posted 46 photographs and received one award – not bad for half a month! In contrast, Mr Snail-of-happiness, who is taking part in NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) has written more than 20, 000 words, but, hey, it’s not a competition! What has been good about living with someone who is also participating in a writing challenge is the support this brings – have you completed your target for the day? If not there’s sympathy and encouragement and if you have, there’s celebration. In addition, the fact that the challenges are different means that there really is no competition, which is good for me because I’m not competitive by nature.

There are two dog beds but Max and Sam choose to sleep together in my office

There are two dog beds but Max and Sam choose to sleep together in my office

Having another person around is important to me, and represents the smallest unit of ‘community’. Mr S-o-h is not my only  companion when writing, however… often in my office I am joined by a dog or two; and they enjoy the company of each other as well. Interestingly, Sam (that’s her in the foreground) was something of a problem dog when we first got her and we were recommended to get her a friend to help calm her down. Max is a very relaxed dog, with a laid-back attitude and his arrival certainly changed Sam’s life – he has taught her to be house-trained, to eat properly and not to be scared of fireworks. As with many relationships, however, it’s not simply one-way: she encourages him to play and cleans his ears, and when we have to leave them in the house, they don’t get upset because they have each other for company. Dogs (like humans) are pack animals and social interaction with other members of their species is really good for them.

All snuggled up in the laying box!

All snuggled up in the laying box!

And they are not the only sociable creatures we have around the place. Despite having a ‘pecking order’, chickens also seem to enjoy each other’s company. I have mentioned Esme snuggling up with the others during her moult, but even now her feathers are growing back, the snuggling continues.

I think in life we all appreciate some companionship – whether a cup of coffee with a friend, a nice comment on a blog or a phone call from a loved one. By opening ourselves up to others, whilst accepting some risk, we give ourselves the opportunity for amazing relationships and experiences and we start to build communities. So, go one, do something sociable today and strengthen the community you live within!

A time and a place

Brooklyn Blackout Cake - too fiddly to make every day!

Cake – an important element of lunch on the last Thursday of each month

On the last Thursday every month I go out for lunch… it’s nothing fancy, just meeting up at a friend’s house with a few other folks, sharing  food that each of us has brought. These days I usually take cake – it was generally agreed that these sessions are best with cake – otherwise, we never plan what we are taking along; I think it’s what’s known as a ‘pot-luck’ in the US. We could end up with four pans of soup or three loaves of bread and a jelly, you just never know. In fact, even though there are usually only four of us at most, we generally manage a very acceptable meal.

Anyway, the point is not the food – although that is good – the point is that we take a few hours out of our lives to inspire and encourage each other. We are, in fact, meeting as a ‘learning guild’ – the result of all of us being registered for the diploma in applied permaculture design. However, since we started getting together in 2012, we have got to know each other and become friends. We share our ideas about living more sustainably – through our gardens, families, work and hobbies – and encourage each other to take projects forward. It’s lovely to have like-minded friends to bounce ideas off and who will talk sense to you when you are going a little off the rails.

Similarly, Mr Snail-of-happiness has just gone off to meet with some other people in the area who are doing NaNoWriMo. They are going to meet up every Sunday through November to share their highs and lows of writing nearly 1700 words a day and hopefully give each other encouragement if anyone is finding it hard. Unlike my group, though, they are meeting in a pub! Who knows, perhaps they will continue to support each other once the month is over.

It may seem like an extravagance to take time out of your life to share a meal and chat, but it almost certainly isn’t. I come away from my gatherings feeling enthused and energised… not to mention happy, and that certainly shouldn’t be dismissed as a successful outcome!

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